I promise I am going to tie this to fashion somehow but Valentine’s Day is this month so I am moved to talk about relationships. As a single woman I have had time to think about what is important about being in a relationship if anything😏 .
I mean if I am going to be honest I can comfortably walk around the house in cute undies or tiny shorts (it’s just my daughter & I so if a man was in the house I would be and have been very mindful of being fully dressed as to not make my daughter feel uncomfortable or send the wrong message to a man or my daughter with a man in the house), I can clean how and when I feel like it (ok some of you may be like “I do the same in a relationship” but I feel you need to do your share when you are living with someone or have future chaos...just based on my experiences), I can do whatever I want with my money without any conversations (well except with my daughter when she is motivated to ask), we go where we want when we want (there is nothing to discuss), etc.
Well if I am being really honest that sounds pretty sad if those are the benefits of being single. The one thing I didn’t say was NO STRESS (if you are not with the right person).
So I am currently looking for the right person. I have married friends that complain (A LOT) and married friends that are happy but the husbands still try to hit on me (I know makes NO sense) and friends in long term relationships that are extremely happy without being married.
Here is what I do know having a partner (THE RIGHT PARTNER) has significantly more benefits than not.
I saw a video yesterday with a men’s round table. And 2 of the men said they are or were looking for women that don’t mind getting $2 drinks or offering to pay the bill on the first date. THAT IS DEFINITELY NOT THE RIGHT PERSON FOR ME.
If you are courting me shouldn’t you want to treat me like a Queen, a high value commodity.
Are we not in the impressing phases? If I offer it should be a bonus not an expectation or a test unless what you are really saying is you don’t really like me that much, you are just looking for sex and don’t want to make to much of an investment or ‘I don’t believe I am going to be much more than an average man so I need you to be on board with that if this is going to work (as an average man I am not trying to spend the rest of my life with you telling me I can have or be more)’.
So with that being said (Oh here comes the fashion bit) I am going to put on my best first date outfit. I am going to make sure I represent you and our family while representing my stylish self. I will feel safe with you and that will allow me to be and feel sexy and feminine. But if you can't maintain that lifestyle, how is this going to work?
(all looks on site at www.ShopFASHIONny.com)
When I want to travel, go to a concert, pay for my child’s college tuition, fix up the house so we have something beautiful to come home to, look beautiful every single day just because I know you are coming home (and I love looking beautiful) or cook the most amazing meals for you, you must know you’ll need more than $2 drink money.
So for all those that doubt marriage is a win here’s why I think it is:
Best Friend on deck
Great sex on a regular (hopefully)
Finances shared and multiplied
Help accomplishing life goals (as yours should both be similar)
Co-Parenting done well
Getting sexy motivation
Soundboard for ideas that become realities with your partners help
Travel partner
Etc
I could go on but this is not a single girls sad song. This is a huge hand clap for relationships👏🏾 .
Being single can be fun and exciting but having a partner should be a goal.
XOXO
SF
